On Thanksgiving my family had an amazing time eating and drinking and after dinner my sister's mother-in-law pulled out the Proust Questionnaire from Vanity Fair so that we could all reflect and share. Even though we spend so much time together and have close relationships, it was really fun to answer these questions. We were all laughing and having a blast.

I spend a lot of time reflecting so it was easy for me to answer most of the questions quickly. The ones that are hard for me are the ones about what you deplore. Sharing these so that you reflect! Feel free to email me your answers or any questions you have about my answers!

The Proust Questionnaire has its origins in a parlor game popularized (though not devised) by Marcel Proust, the French essayist and novelist, who believed that, in answering these questions, an individual reveals his or her true nature. Here is the basic Proust Questionnaire.

What is your idea of perfect happiness? Just being with my family on a warm Sonoma day and sitting by a pool reading a good book.

What is your greatest fear? An untimely death of anyone in my family.

What is the trait you most deplore in yourself? Can't think of one.

What is the trait you most deplore in others? Negativity.

Which living person do you most admire? My husband.

What is your greatest extravagance? Getting my hair done.

What is your current state of mind? Happy!

What do you consider the most overrated virtue? Preparedness.

On what occasion do you lie? When two friends tell me something about themselves and then the other one asks about the other one.

What do you most dislike about your appearance? The right tooth on the bottom that is slanted.

Which living person do you most despise? Trump.

What is the quality you most like in a man? Thoughtfulness.

What is the quality you most like in a woman? Thoughtfulness.

Which words or phrases do you most overuse? "You know what I mean?"

What or who is the greatest love of your life? Jesse and/or ice cream. And Lillian, but that's a different type of love.

When and where were you happiest? Always happy when in Sonoma.

Which talent would you most like to have? Singing!!

If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? That I was better at graphic design, interior design, painting.

What do you consider your greatest achievement? A 100% natural birth with Lillian.

If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be? The Queen.

Where would you most like to live? Sonoma, of course.

What is your most treasured possession? Murray! My baby blanket that I still sleep with every night and never leave home without.

What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery? The passing of a family member or best friend.

What is your favorite occupation? Creator. Mother. Writer.

What is your most marked characteristic? That I will have a conversation with anyone.

What do you most value in your friends? Positivity and a sense of fun.

Who are your favorite writers? Elin Hildenbrand.

Who is your hero of fiction? Harry Potter and Hermione Granger.

Which historical figure do you most identify with? Serena van der Woodsen. jk.

Who are your heroes in real life? Women who take risks.

What are your favorite names? Lillian, Audrey, Charlie, William

What is it that you most dislike? Complaining, negativity, hurtfulness

What is your greatest regret? Talking my orthodontist out of getting bottom braces.

How would you like to die? Very, very old in my bed with loved ones around.

What is your motto? Don't f*ck with me! This had everyone in stitches when I shared at the dinner table!




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